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Based on the acclaimed book,
Peace Q: Increasing the Capacity for Peace Within and Beyond

Fighting in a relationship is not a big problem. How you fight with a mate or a friend is the real issue. John Gottman’s research shows arguments and perpetual issues are healthy in committed relationships as long as couples know how to resolve difficulties as they arise. If you are authentic and honest, you will disagree with your partner, get hurt and be angry at times. Working through hurt and anger are the pathway for true intimacy.
Couples that report high satisfaction in their relationships know how to work with the inevitable ruptures or disagreements that come up from time to time. These couples can find humor in the reoccurring themes of their arguments.
On the other hand, making a wall out of anger leads to distance and contempt. Bad habit fighters rarely feel they have resolution or closeness from conflict. They usually live in a world of emotional bruises that never seem to heal.
Signs of bad fighting habits
Using five or more of these tactics mans you are eroding healthy relationships and need to learn the good fight. It’s never too late to learn better communication. Here are the signs:
Blaming your partner for their faults
Calling your partner names or expletives
Lashing out when you are inebriated
Cutting your partner off when you are hurt
Responding to your partner’s complaints with your own
Shouting
Threatening to leave the relationship / physical violence
Good fight tactics all involve one premise: being close than right. Unfortunately, most people have been taught they must fight to win. Winning means losing love.
Ground Rules
Only one person talks at a time
Take time out to cool down – it’s healthy and helpful when one person becomes flooded with uncontrollable emotion
Agree on a time to talk and make time for an in-depth discussion
Understand the differences presented in the conflict
Choose a physical location that protects your privacy and offers an opportunity to express vulnerable emotions
Both parties are rested and sober
Signs of a good fighter
Accountability for behavior
Making requests instead of complaints
Listening more than speaking
Willing to reveal fears and vulnerabilities
Acknowledging your partner’s point of view
The good fight is a fight for love instead of righteousness. A battle for true understanding instead of revenge and a struggle for authentic revelation instead of defensive competition.
https://www.pickthebrain.com/blog/the-good-fight-how-to-get-closer-through-conflict/